The Art of Marriage

The Art of Marriage is a lovely poem written by Wilferd A. Peterson.  It is one of the most frequently recited wedding poems.

The poem captures the essence of a good marriage, so it is also often used to teach couples how to build a strong marriage.

I read it for the first time this week, loved it and would like to share here.

 

The Art Of Marriage

by Wilferd A. Peterson

(longer version)

 

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens,

A good marriage must be created.

In the art of marriage, the little things are the big things.

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say, “I love you,” at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;

The courtship should not end with the honeymoon,

It should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude

Of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation

And demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience,

Understand and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,

Dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner,

It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

 

The Art Of Marriage

by Wilferd A. Peterson

(short popular version)

A good marriage must be created.

In the art of marriage the little things are the big things

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once each day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is not only marrying the right partner…

It is being the right partner.

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