Kindness Challenge Day 5 – Compliments

This is Day 5 of the 14-Day Kindness Challenge – Give a Genuine Compliment to at Least 3 People.

The first person I gave a genuine compliment today is Beth Freschi, a life coach who specializes in artists, creatives, and wellness. Once a month on the first Monday she comes to MnDOT to facilitate a relaxation session. She has done this since 2007, free of charge for any employees who are interested. She sets up the room before and after the session. She sometimes gives away her relaxation CDs and small gifts. She is one of the kindest and most generous persons I have ever met in my life.

Today after the relaxation session I told Beth what I thought of her: “You are one of the kindest and most generous persons I have ever met in my life.” I really meant it, from the bottom of my heart.

The second person I gave a genuine compliment is my daughter Amy. While sitting in the car waiting for my son to get out of school in the late afternoon, I asked Amy about her piano lesson on Sunday. She said she passed one of her two new pieces she had been practicing for the last week.

“Wow, you passed after only one week? That means you are really good at piano. You are talented.”

I know I often nag my daughter for not practicing her piano well, for not putting in more time and effort as she should and could have, for not working hard enough. But even without too much effort and hard work, she is obviously doing well. She just passed her MMTA (Minnesota Music Teachers Association) piano performance test level 8 on Oct. 27. Last year she passed level 6. We decided to skip level 7 and do level 8. She passed it.

I don’t give my kids enough compliments. I tend to see what they haven’t done or accomplished instead of what they have done and accomplished. So I was glad to give my daughter a genuine compliment today. She is really talented in different ways. Her poems and drawings have won prizes at the Minnesota State Fair every year since she started to enter the contest in 2009.

The third person I gave a genuine compliment was a stranger. I met her at my daughter’s first basketball practice tonight. She is the team coordinator. We chatted. I found out she homeschools her three elementary age kids. She has 5 kids in total. I think it takes a lot of discipline, dedication and commitment to homeschool kids. I genuinely admire parents like her for homeschooling their kids. I told her: “I admire you for homeschooling your kids. You are a great mom.”

I hope I have brightened these three individual lives a little bit with my genuine compliments today, even for just a moment.