Day: January 27, 2010
Every night after I say "Good night. I love you!" to my kids, I usually hurry to the computer room to do my stuff, i. e., emailing, reading and writing.
But last night, after my son Andy went to bed and I said "Good night. I love you!" I stayed and sat down next to him in the dark bedroom for a few minutes.
Without my saying anything, my son started to share something happened to him at school.
A classmate, a bully and a trouble maker, scratched Andy’s neck with his fingernails. He reported the incident to the teacher. Later the assistant principal came to talk to the student.
I said: "Andy, you did the right thing. I am proud of you."
Then I also told him: "It’s not good to bully other kids and make troubles. That kid is a bully and a trouble maker. But let’s have some sympathy and compassion for him. He must have experienced some troubles and difficulties in life. If he had grown up in a nice family with loving parents, he won’t have become a troubled kid and a trouble maker in the first place. This kid doesn’t get the love and attention he needs at home. So he makes troubles at school to get attention. He is not a bad kid, he is just a victim of a troubled family. So try to be nice to him. OK?"
Andy responded: "OK."
I left the room, with a sense of satisfaction, because I just practiced mindful living.
Had I hurried to leave and go do my own things, I would have missed the conversation and moment of sharing with my son.
We talked for only a few minutes, but it was a meaningful moment.
I realized I need to slow down and practice more mindful living, so I won’t miss important moments like this in life.